Wine, food and retail therapy

Before we started the second round of IVF, we were well aware that there was a chance of the treatment not working out again. The chance of getting pregnant with IVF (ICSI) are quite slim. Yet we chose to keep positive throughout it and deal with the emotions when the time was there. That worked for us.

Men and women deal differently with emotions, so also with a failed IVF cycle . Men - I am well aware that I am generalising here - talk about it once and feel they have dealt with it. They find it of limited value to go over the whole thing again and again. We compromised: we agreed that we would talk about it for no more than three days and then move on.

I used these three days for crying my eyes out. We used these three days for feeling truly sorry for ourselves, talking to each other and doing some serious comfort eating and drinking. Jonny told me that drinking a whole bottle of wine would probably not make me feel better, but most likely worse. One glass of nice red wine was divine though, after almost a month of prohibition.

A serious bout of retail therapy finished off the mourning period. Not only do I have almost my complete winter wardrobe ready, but we are ready to move on. It is okay now. We will be okay. Looking forward to enjoying some September sun today and meeting up with our friend Miffy, who we have not seen for ages.

We loved the kind emails, sweet phone calls, the warm thoughts and prayers, crossed fingers and good energy we got from you throughout and after the treatment. Thanks for that, it did us good! We certainly hope there is a lot more where that came from since we might be needing some more soon.